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Reliability and Value

Reliability and Value

Exciting announcement about what to expect in Season 2. And a call for your stories. Please reach out to me if you would like to be featured on the Absent Father Podcast, be interviewed by me and share your story related to Absent Fathers in service of bringing awareness and healing to the impacts of growing up with an absent father.

Also in this episode, we have a conversation about our extreme desire for reliability and where that comes from all spurred my car being stolen in February and lessons from that experience.

In addition to discussing reliability, I dive into the other thing I crave which is value. Value is essentially getting the most quality by parting with the least amount of money.

Check out this episode to learn how all of that relates to growing up with an Absent Father.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Perfection

Perfection

Today's episode explores perfection and the crippling impact of always comparing ourselves to some fantasy version of life. 

I share two stories that really illustrate how perfectionists latch on to what's not working, in the face of all the things that are working.

Finally, we also look at the superpowers that come with this curse of seeing a path to perfection in everything.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Special Episode: Mytrae Meliana Interview w/ Rodney Mueller

Last month, I was interviewed by Mytrae Meliana, acclaimed women's empowerment and Divine Feminine teacher, speaker, author, and sound healer.

In this one hour interview, we go in depth on the origin of the Absent Father Podcast, as well as the pain and learning from my own absent father story.

I absolutely loved this conversation and something about it unearthed some emotions I hadn't access to in a long time.

Toward the end of the interview, we discuss masculinity and leadership in the 21st Century.

I hope you enjoy the conversation as much as I did.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

www.scottginsberg.com

Authority Figures

Authority Figures can be bosses, leaders, people with rank, people you perceive as better than you, rich people, etc. 

How we relate and interact with "authority figures" is often directly related to our relationship (or lack there of) with our fathers. 

In this episode, we delve into our relationships to authority figures, why they can be so triggering, the different ways we interact with them and how to create more empowering interactions and relationships with perceived authority figures.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Why Do Dad's Leave? Part 2

In part 2 of "Why Do Dad's Leave?" we discuss the generational nature of father absence. How our family history and the generation's who came before use greatly contribute and help explain why Dad's leave. 

My hope is that it helps all of us to see the bigger picture in our society that contributes to father absence and makes it less personal. If you had an absent father, there's an excellent chance that your father's father was also absent, emotionally or physically, and that his father was absent.

As we begin to understand the father absence and the generation nature of it, perhaps we can begin to interrupt the cycle of physical and emotional abandonment.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

www.scottginsberg.com

 

 

Why Do Dad's Leave? Part 1

In this episode we tackle the big question: "Why Do Dad's Leave?" If you have a child, or a dog that you love, you might have thought about that one. How could someone abandon someone and something so great? 

In some ways, it may be a simple answer. That we avoid things in our lives that remind us of our shame or what we believe is not good enough about ourselves. The more shame and pain, the more we are absent.

This is true for the absent father, this is true for me. 

So my question is no longer, "Will I abandon the people I love someday?" instead, it's "How do I abandon the people I love?"

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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God Stuff

Today's episode discusses the role that spirituality and religion plays in our lives. I begin a conversation about my own spiritual journey by sharing the story of my confirmation in the lutheran church (aka Catholic without the fun stuff like drinking and gambling,) and how it served to create the opposite of "confirmation" of faith for me.

I talk about the rest of my spiritual journey and how it relates to our relationship with our parents, specifically our fathers. Finally, we explore the parallels between our relationship to our parents and our relationship to God/Spirit/Universe, or as my longtime friend and mentor, Jodi Larson, might call it: "The Blueberry Muffin in the Sky."

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

www.scottginsberg.com

Analysis Paralysis

Today's episode discusses analysis paralysis. The agonizing process many of go through when making a choice about buying something.
A small purchase or big purchase, we analyze to the point of exhaustion or to the last minute.
How to recognize it, where it comes from and how start practicing something new.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

www.scottginsberg.com

Never Enough

Do you find yourself in a constant pursuit of being good enough? Are you always busy, often tired and feel like you can never catch up?


This episode is for you, and us. 

In this episode, we breakdown the never ending chase for feeling good enough, where it started, how it relates to our father relationship and how to stop running this race.
We will look at creating a life where our worthiness, value and lovability are derived from the inside-out, rather than the outside-in.

Learn more at absentfatherproject.com  | rodneymueller.com

Email me at me@rodneymueller.com

Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

www.scottginsberg.com

About Oprah and Abandonment

About Oprah and Abandonment

Today's episode is primarily about Abandonment. In 2013, I was a guest on Oprah's Life Class with Oprah and Iyanla Vanzant, when Iyanla asked a question that forever changed my perspective on abandonment.
We talk about the types of abandonment, what it looks like when we do it to the people we love and how to become more present, starting with our self first.

Learn more at absentfatherproject.com  | rodneymueller.com

Email me at me@rodneymueller.com

Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

www.scottginsberg.com